who is a hooker?
Daily life poems

Are you better than a hooker? I’m not.

Who is a hooker? Maybe, someone you know.

Hook me into that red velvet dress.

Décolletage down to the bosom- hooked on a rack.

Not that rack. Get your head out of the gutter.

She just might make you stutter.

Hooker, they call her.

Is she a scarlet lover, though? 

We judge what we don’t understand. 

Emotional intelligence is behind her duress. Her survival hangs on hooking people in.

That makes her quite clever.

Attune to emotions.

A silent confidante. A therapist. A crisis counselor. A friend. A quick thinker. A problem solver.

We don’t see all that. We just notice a hooker.

A golddigger. A diamond stealer. Stacking up the coins.

That is what we call the ‘girls’ who are after the coin.

What about the ones who see no other way?

No avenue or shoe to fall onto.

It is so easy to judge- a red scarlet girl.

Yet, with no one to advise you, your fate can be similar.

Don’t we see it is pure luck; we stand here while she stands there.

Hooker clothes?

To prostitute (verb) is:

To offer sexual intercourse in exchange for payment.

Merriam-Webster.

First, let’s get some misconceptions out of the way. There seems to be a lot of confusion concerning new terms like sugar babies.

No. Sugar babies are not prostitutes unless they choose to sell their bodies for sex. Even though, a lot of people assume they are.

Hiding

Who we want our daughters to be vs. the world.

A prude. Never seen in the nude. No, you were not made for the hood.

Who’s to say, who or what you were born to be? Poor opportunities, distress, can create a situation, where nobody wants to enter.

However, it is easy to judge, missing when some people fall in by accident.

I never really gave it much thought until I was well, propositioned to speak to rich men on an app.

Jobs like that exist on LinkedIn, disguised as something else.

For some reason, it is always a woman, who approaches another woman for shady things like this.

Lady in red

People can get tricked and duped 🙋🏻‍♀️

Today, especially, Lebanon is facing an economic crisis. Meaning, people are allured to the sound of a dollar salary because that is scarce now.

At the black market rate, you can live well, and afford things like food.

So, how did I find myself in a sticky situation, as an educated, and to some, a privileged person?

I got propositioned on LinkedIn

After graduating, like many other people, I turned to LinkedIn to find a job.

One description said they needed someone to present a video.

Ok, that does not sound unearthly. Unless that is code for some shady business. You guessed right, I applied for it online.

The next morning, I received a message on Whatsapp.

A woman, from an X company, I will not mention where, said, all you need to do is talk to people on an app.

Just have conversations with them. And they will send you little presents like roses, chocolate, jewelry, and money.

Expensive jewelry.
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But, you get more depending on how popular you are on there.

In my opinion, that is code for how much you expose.

I said no, so I cannot know for sure. Because well, I am not in the business of selling myself.

However, this got me thinking if I a person with a Master’s got propositioned for something like this, imagine, a vulnerable person, with no family support. No cushioning or security blanket.

Simply trying to make honest work. Instead, lured into a job like that. That makes me sad.

That is how I realized that the only thing, maybe, separating me from “them”, is having options. The option to say no.

I was never much of a judger. However, I always found it scary and repulsive to let someone you don’t like touch you, even for a hug.

I just wondered, how. Why. To me, it seems like torture. That is my own bias.

Are fishnets for a hooker?

Sugar daddy relationships and sex work at universities

College students are struggling to pay their tuition. A lot of young women (and men) are turning to richer elders, to make ends meet.

sugar
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Ironically, there is a new term coined, “universitution“.

A not-so-romantic nickname or crossover between university and prostitution.

In exchange for companionship or sexual favors, students get paid in trips, presents, money, or tuition fees.

Furthermore, a sugar arrangement is a mutually beneficial relationship between a “sugar daddy” and “sugar baby”.

Whereby, a sugar baby is compensated for their time. A sugar baby offers dating and companionship in exchange for financial support.

Some people view it as college prostitution. However, a lot of sugar babies do not engage in sexual intercourse.

Not all sex workers are forced into it

A woman.

Nonetheless, not all people who become hookers are forced or pushed into it.

It is a choice. Here, it is not my business to judge or say, I am better than you.

Since I am not better.

Likewise, a savior complex is not needed either. Not everyone needs saving.

The reason I did not mention the name of the place is that some people are making money off it, so, just let them be.

For them, this means being able to afford food. Who am I to judge?

In conclusion, a woman is just a woman.

A hooker can be a student. A graduate. Even a mother or daughter.

Some hate sex. Others love it. Some feel the power. Others feel powerless.

Why do we judge what we don’t understand? Especially, hookers.

Is it so wrong to be labeled a hooker? Yes, if she is forced into it. Tricked.

Thinking she is doing something but finding something else.

As a choice, it is ok.

serious adult woman with open book on street against facade of old building in university
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While I will never agree to be a hooker, I hate people even buying me food, I can now understand how people get propositioned and accept.

I always wondered, how is it that someone becomes a hooker.

Since the concept was so foreign to me. But the realization that there are students and mothers made me realize it can be at any corner.

Your local market. A university. And even a fancy business.

Did you ever get propositioned for something outside your comfort zone?

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